Blog 9: How to stop worrying

As we know, we are trying to adapt to the environment of Singapore. So it's natural for us to have some worry, for example, about the new life in NUS. Do you want to know "How to stop worrying and enjoy life"?  

There are frequently asked questions you may also have, for example, Where does worry come from? What should we do when worry really comes?

Let me explain.

Worry comes from unknown. Only when you are not sure about something will you be worried. Right? So we shouldn’t pay too much attention to the future.

Let me tell you a story.

William Osler was a medical student in 1871, he worried about where to go, how to make a living in the future. One day he picked up a book and read 21 words. After he became famous many years later, he said these 21 words had changed himself from a worried student to the most famous doctor in his generation. These 21 words are: Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.

It doesn't mean we should not make any effort to prepare for tomorrow, but the best way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, enthusiasm on doing today's work today.

Now we’ve known where worry comes from, but it’s not enough, we should also learn the magic API formula for solving worrying situations:

A stands for Ask. Ask yourself what is the worst situation if you can’t solve the problem?

P stands for Prepare. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst situation.

I stands for Improve. Improve upon the worst- which you’ve already mentally agreed to accept.

Now you know why it’s magic? Maybe you have no idea at present. But try this formula when you feel worried next time and you will find why.

From the above, we've known 2 facts about worry: worry comes from unknown and we can use API formula to solve worry.

I hope I have made myself understood and you have found this report useful.